How not to behave as a parent: A masterclass

If there was ever a clear illustration of how not to behave as a parent, the film adaptation of Henry James’ novel, What Maisie Saw, demonstrates it perfectly. Directed by Scott McGhee and David Sigel, the 2013 release tells the story of a little girl’s struggle for grace in the midst of her parents’ bitter custody battle. Told through the eyes of the title’s heroine, Maisie navigates this ever-widening turmoil with a six-year-old’s innocence. It has also been described as “a monster movie – even if the monsters in question leave emotional scars rather than physical ones.”

If the theme of ‘appropriate shared parenting’ affects you, Lisa Broddle, SRB’s Family and Collaborative Lawyer, recommends some pointers from of Sylvia Duncan’s recent talk to Thameside Collaborative Lawyers and Mediators.

• The importance of both parents to a child in a meaningful relationship
• Children will do best when they feel safe, loved and supported by both parents
• Appropriate adult behaviour, communicating as best they can and seeking assistance from professionals to achieve this.
• The children should know they are always kept in mind at all times and their parents can work together in their best interests
• Shared Parenting…is not about what is ‘fair’ for the adult, it’s about what’s right for the child

SRB are producing a free leaflet for parents, which will cover topics in this important area. Details regarding availability will be posted on www.srb.co.uk in the next few weeks.

To speak to Lisa Broddle at SRB, please call 020 8891 6141